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Bees on the TVs: When Harry Met Sally

Posted by Ryan Morgan on September 18, 2012 at 12:00 PM

If you want to see a fantastic movie about the growth of a relationship, look no further than “When Harry Met Sally.” This hilarious film has become a romantic-comedy classic, and highlights the differences between men and women. All the while, the film asks a question most young adults ask themselves: "Can a man and a woman be friends, without sex getting in the way?"

Harry (Billy Crystal) and Sally (Meg Ryan) meet after graduating college and drive to New York together to begin their lives. Hilarity ensues. Cut to a five years later – Harry and Sally bump into each other on a flight. Hilarity ensues. Cut to a five years later – Harry and Sally see each other in a book store and become friends. They look to each other for advice on dating and the opposite sex, and, ultimately, create a friendship with multiple layers.

Directed by Rob Reiner, this movie has so many great scenes and lines that it’s hard to capture them all. One of my favorite scenes takes place while both characters are watching Casablanca (in their own beds – the scene is done as a split screen). They are on the phone with each other and have the following conversation:

Harry Burns: There are two kinds of women: high maintenance and low maintenance.
Sally Albright: Which one am I?
Harry Burns: You're the worst kind; you're high maintenance but you think you're low maintenance.
Sally Albright: I don't see that.
Harry Burns: You don't see that? Waiter, I'll begin with a house salad, but I don't want the regular dressing. I'll have the balsamic vinegar and oil, but on the side. And then the salmon with the mustard sauce, but I want the mustard sauce on the side. "On the side" is a very big thing for you.
Sally Albright: Well, I just want it the way I want it.
Harry Burns: I know; high maintenance.

This movie is a great example of how most people find out about sex and relationships – talking to their friends! Throughout the film, Harry, Sally, and their friends Marie (Carrie Fisher) and Jess (Bruno Kirby) discuss, analyze and question their relationships and sex. Everything from infidelity to marriage to orgasms – nothing is off limits!

The scene that made this movie famous takes place in a famous New York City landmark, Katz's Deli. Harry and Sally are talking about sex over lunch, and how women fake orgasms. To prove to Harry that he couldn’t tell the difference between a “real” or “fake” orgasm, Sally simulates one at the table.

Many men and women can find themselves and their friendships in Harry and Sally. This classic story of “falling for a friend” is redone in a beautiful way.


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