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Wishing you a consent-filled Christmas

Posted by Ryan Morgan on December 23, 2013 at 9:31 AM
AshleyBy Ashley Crary It’s the most wonderful time of the year! Like Buddy the Elf states, “The best way to spread Christmas cheer, is singing loud for all to hear.” I take this advice very seriously and throughout the month of December, ok the moment Halloween is over, I spread cheer by singing classic Christmas songs. One of my all-time favorite songs to belt out is “Baby, It’s Cold Outside”; I even own a pair of singing penguins, dressed in their most festive attire, that are close to dying because I play this song so often. One day while providing cheer for my office mates it dawned on me that this song plays into rape culture. The female just wants to go home and the male tries his best to coerce her. The most disturbing exchange for me is when she asks what is in her drink. Yikes! With this revelation I am determined to change the lyrics to the very catchy holiday tune so that they encourage open communication and healthy relationships. Some initial thoughts I have for changes are: Female: Say, what's in this drink? It’s delicious – Male: No cabs to be had out there, let me call one Female: I wish I knew how to make it for my friends Female: The answer is no Male: Ok let me drive you home Female: I've got to go home because I have work tomorrow Male: Oh, baby, you'll freeze out there, put your gloves on Female: Say, lend me your coat Male: It's up to your knees out there, so let me warm up the car Have a happy, healthy, and consent-filled holiday! Ashley is the Public Policy Coordinator at South Carolina Coalition for Healthy Families and a heck of a singer.

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